The exciting part of dating again after age 50. ThereвЂ™s more communication, more honesty, and fewer assumptions about what вЂњdatingвЂќ means or where itвЂ™s going. Nevertheless, you still may need help navigating the dating and relationship world. Check out useful tips on writing an awesome online profile, and be inspired by ideas for inexpensive dates. Lastly, peek at some pointers on how to have great вЂњfirst-timeвЂќ sex.
If youвЂ™re 50 or older and back in the dating pool, youвЂ™ll discover that one key to successful online dating is having a strong profile. Many people just dash off their online profile, but thatвЂ™s a really bad idea. The profile is what people ponder when theyвЂ™re interested enough to spend a little time deciding whether to contact you or return your contact. But the good news for you is that itвЂ™s easy to outshine the competition.
Before you start typing away, you have to know what to say (and what not to say); let this list of doвЂ™s and donвЂ™ts guide the construction of your online-dating profile:
Always keep a warm, friendly tone in your writing.
DonвЂ™t skimp on description; this is the most important part of your online presence, so write at least three paragraphs.
Be specific. Instead of just saying you love to travel, for example, talk about a specific trip.
Avoid clichГ©s вЂ” everybody likes to walk on the beach!
Be honest, or it will undermine you later.
Talk about something you did that makes you sound humane; you want people to know youвЂ™re a good person.
DonвЂ™t undersell yourself: Talk about an award you received, a great job, something you shine at. Remember, this is a bit like a job interview, and you have to sound better than other applicants!
DonвЂ™t come across as arrogant; donвЂ™t make it sound as if no one could be good enough for you.
If you have a good sense of humor, use it. If not, donвЂ™t force it.
Sound like youвЂ™re happy and grateful for your life. Then someone will want to share it.
Affordable Date Ideas for Over-50 Daters
Most people date quite a bit before they find вЂњthe one.вЂќ Even if all your dates are just dinner and a movie, dating can get expensive. Some men and women split the bill, but if the man or woman is traditional about who pays, dating can become very pricey for the guy. There are quite a few ways to have an inexpensive date that doesnвЂ™t feel cheap.
Here are a few ideas for inexpensive dates to consider:
Search the city for great food trucks. Finding them is fun, and the food is always reasonably priced.
Go to new wineries and get free tastings. The fancy established ones may have a tasting fee, but the newer ones are trying to build up a fan base, so theyвЂ™re usually free.
Join your local film society and go to free or cheap screenings of movies. This is one of the best values, and if youвЂ™re a movie buff dating another movie buff, this could be the best date possible.
Explore вЂњintellidates.вЂќ ThereвЂ™s so much talent giving free lectures or performances on university and college campuses that youвЂ™ll have a hard time choosing among your options. Check the websites of local institutions for free or inexpensive music, theater, dance, and lectures.
Do something outdoors to preserve nature. Join a conservation crew for a day: Participate in trail cleanup or other environmental group activities.
Attend dog shows, horse shows, or agricultural shows. If your date is an animal lover, these events are typically free вЂ” or at least inexpensive вЂ” and a great way to bring out your dateвЂ™s softer side.
Go to your local poetry society, library, or bookstore and listen to free readings from visiting authors. Sometimes theyвЂ™re well-known, and the readings are usually intimate affairs where you can have good conversation about the poems or book.
Do something a little quirky and fun. You can put up a tent and camp вЂ” even if itвЂ™s just in your own backyard! Or plan a picnic in your living room if youвЂ™re not interested in really roughing it.
Experience the everyday majesty of nature. Get up very early and watch the sun rise, and enjoy a nice breakfast afterward. Or go see the stars on a clear night, preferably a bit out in the country where the city lights donвЂ™t obscure the view.
Cozy up together. Rent the first season or more of a great TV series or miniseries, and make your own popcorn.
Cook together! Baking is particularly fun and sensual because the aroma is tantalizing long before you actually get your first bite.
Having sex for the first time with a new dating partner can be nerve-wracking, especially if you havenвЂ™t slept with someone new in years. Yet, when youвЂ™re older and have been sexual in your previous relationships, sex seems to happen sooner. Depending on your values, it can be a momentous occasion or just a pleasure-seeking experience. But, if you hope that itвЂ™s part of a serious relationship, youвЂ™re more motivated to make sure itвЂ™s a happy, erotic, mutually satisfying event.
It helps to have some thoughts about how to make that first sex the successful prelude to an ongoing intimate relationship. Here are a few pointers that can help you make your first sex with your partner great:
DonвЂ™t have sex right away; sex on the first or second date usually means a short relationship.
Precede sex with conversation and approach the experience with intention so that you can be prepared (nice underwear, lubrication, pills, and so on).
Set the right mood with a romantic dinner and good conversation beforehand (but donвЂ™t overeat or drink too much!).
Talk about health before you get physically intimate. Plan safer sex with condoms. DonвЂ™t think that makes you cheap; it doesnвЂ™t. You show your concern for yourself and your partner by using protection against any sexually transmitted diseases.
As your relationship deepens and becomes more erotic, talk about what having sex means to you: Is it a declaration of love, like, or just attraction? Make sure you and your partner are on the same page.
When youвЂ™re ready to get sexual, pick a romantic venue; the place, the mood, and the ambience all matter.
Even if your feelings are intense, take it slow before and during sex. Communication and caring are actually more likely to make this time memorable than technique or endurance.
Ask what your partner likes and how he or she wants to be touched. Take the guesswork out of it.
Say nice, complimentary things. Make your partner feel attractive, desired, and respected. If you help your partner feel confident about your desire and admiration, your partner is more likely to feel sexy, uninhibited, and connected to you вЂ” and that means sex is more likely to be great!
If you arenвЂ™t going to stay the night, explain ahead of time. You may have good reasons for not being able to sleep over, but staying is nicer. And having breakfast together in the morning is romantic.